The End of Sex

2 min readFeb 9, 2018
  1. Sex is dead and it is we who have killed it.
  2. A friend sent me an article today citing a decline in sexual activity amongst all young professionals, as well as teenagers. The culprits: pornography, phones, a culture of claustrophobic fear.
  3. Today it only seems possible to read accounts of sexual violence — never of sexual pleasure. Or — there is pornography and rape: cartoons of sexuality that leave very little room for representations of the far more ambiguous, open-ended, interesting, sex that most non-criminals or sexual athletes have.
  4. Eros is dead and it is we who have killed it.
  5. Erotic relationships are difficult, masturbation is easy. And human beings tend to do the easy thing.
  6. Plato knew more about sex than we do: erotic love is about the cultivation of the soul.
  7. Because we have so little understanding of, or care for, the soul, we have little understanding, or care for, sex.
  8. D.H. Lawrence: “The only justice is to follow the sincere intuition of the soul, angry or gentle. Anger is just, and pity is just, but judgement is never just.”
  9. I wonder if Freudian analysis has fallen out of favor because it is too profound for our shallow culture. Too close to revealing what we keep hidden; festering.
  10. What people want is anti-depressants and Tinder — so they have to find justification for their desires.